So im getting married in a year. And my finance and i have had the baby talk as you should. We are going to try for a baby after the wedding. Well after my 30th because who wants to be knocked up on their 30th haha.
Anyway we know its in our future and we have discussed how it would work. Whos going to drop some work or are they going to go right into daycare ect.
Id never realised how much thought really needs to go into it if you want to be prepared.
I mean how many people get pregnant by accident and everthing seems to work out.
But i like to be prepared it makes me feel better.
So i decided i would like to work part time. Some work from home and a few days in work.
My partner also wants to have a day at home with the baby which would be great.
But the logistics. Will my boss be ok with me working part time from home? I can definitely do most of my job from home. But hes not overly flexible.
If i ask for that will he say no? What then. Do i quit? And not have that income. Seems like alot more pressure on my partner.
Do i crack under pressure and go back full time? But i dont want to. And then i still have daycare to pay for.
Do i then preemptively quit knowing they wont be flexible and try to find something more flexible now?
Then we have to deal with other mothers telling you why you should have done this or that instead. And why what they did was better.
As mothers we are all just trying out best to make nice happy little humans. Why the pressure. What can go wrong if they arnt talking enougj. Or eating right. Or sleeping right.
So much to try and work out. Knowing my life everything i plan will fall apart and we will do it a completely different way. But it will still work out.
Until next time, Em